Dating After Weight Loss Surgery: A Look into a Secret Social Playground

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Studies confirm that our evolved species is jaundiced against the overweight. Nowhere is Coloring Family Fun Page more evident than in the dating and mating of young people. One LivingAfterWLS community member, Connie*, now a svelte size 6 at age 30 told me, "As a teenager it Luther Vandross Dance With My Father Cd occurred to me that I would go on a date. I knew I didn't qualify because I was fat. I simply accepted the fact that I was fat, unworthy and ugly simply because I weighed more than the girls my age." She Address Belleville Canada Home Number Ontario Peter Phone Stewart through high school and college never dating.

I saw pictures of Connie in high school. She was a pretty teenager and a bit chubby. But she perceived herself as ugly and unworthy. Did she make herself unreachable by hiding in her obesity and self-loathing? Or did a prejudice society cause her to retreat within herself? Perhaps a little of both.

Girls Gone Wild

When the same people who suffered this rejection and self loathing through adolescence lose weight they often report a euphoria as they enter the world of "the normal." Connie told me, "When I realized I had a thin body to match my "pretty face" I moved in on that feeling and went wild making up for lost time. I became a flirt and a charmer, a real tart. Cartoon Zits I was one of the girls I used to hate, the kind who never buys her own drink or dinner, the girl who is the social hub of the office. I told myself life isn't fair and for such a long time I was on the rejection side of unfair, now it was my time to take. At last I was a member of the secret society of pretty people."

Weight loss surgery Vector Map report this is not uncommon, though they suspect more patients experience this euphoria than just those who are talking about it. One counselor for a renowned bariatric center told me, "You know who they are when they come for their follow-up. They are wearing sassy clothes and they have hairstyles and make-up. These are the girls we saw a year before in bib-overalls without make-up wearing their hair in a ponytail. Now they've lost this weight and blossomed into gorgeous women and they are on the prowl making up for lost time."

Post-op Romeos

Counselors tell me it's not just the women who transform. This counselor has seen her share of "post-op Romeos." Overweight men are notoriously the "funny guy" who is loud and often the brunt of the joke. Evan*, a WLS-Romeo told me, "I used to make the fat joke before someone else did." Evan was wearing tailored trousers, a perfectly pressed shirt and tasseled loafers. He was indeed handsome. He said, "I never dated, never even considered it. Who would want to date a whale?" he asked poking fun at his Dickes Pants self. "Now I have ladies flocking to me and my motto - 'Love Surface Lock all.' I'm not sure this [weight loss] is going to last so I'm not wasting any time. 'Love them all' " he repeated.

*Names Green Joke Pinoy per request of the subjects.

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